There are not too many times where you will be stuck in a house with your spouse due to a national pandemic. Nonetheless, you two sticking it out for better or worse—like you promised.
However, the tension is running rampant throughout the entire house with no way to cut it – what do you do?
From the big fight a few weeks back to your spouse’s lack of emotional availability, there’s no better time than now to get everything off your chest.
Where else are you going to go?
Many couples avoid the tough conversations by staying busy with work and other avenues outside of the home. By doing this, you are not only exacerbating the core problems, but you are allowing more issues to pile on throughout this quarantine – petty or serious.
Turmoil is a part of marriage. If a person has never had anything as little as a disagreement with their spouse, then that marriage is a complete lie and that couple is not being with each other.
Think about it, there’s no way in hell that you can live with someone for years and you don’t disagree on something. I’ve been with Shelbie with 10 years and to this day, she doesn’t like sports and I despise Disney movies with a passion.
Getting back to the point, it’s time to have that tough conversation with your spouse. Whatever seems to be causing a riff in your marriage needs to be addressed before it gets worse.
The biggest thing is writing down and focusing on the main points.
Usually when couples have a disagreement, it turns into a tit-for-tat. First comes the nit-picking, then bringing up the past, anything to win the argument.
For those willing to work things out in a healthy manner needs to have a clear head while tackling these issues. Remember, you are fighting these problems, not your spouse.
These conversations may hurt some feelings, but it’s better to have their feelings hurt now rather than a spouse dropping the bomb that they want a divorce.
In any situation, growth comes from pain. Running away from it isn’t going to help you grow. It will just carry into the next relationship you get into.
Reconnect with your spouse. All you have is time.
Peace, love and gratitude,
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